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Wellens  </div> <div> April 26, 2004</div> <bR> <div> Today is my special day</div> <div> to celebrate being a new mother</div> <div> I don't know if I should rejoice or be sad</div> <div> It was a long uphill, rocky climb </div> <div> A journey in which I should be glad.</div> <bR> <div> Today is my special day</div> <div> My triumph begins with you</div> <div> For Without you there would be no joy</div> <div> I thank God I'm</div> <div> proud to call you my new baby boy.</div> <bR> <div> Last year no one noticed the pain </div> <div> Or that I avoided these celebrations</div> <div> Unaware of how difficult it was for me</div> <div> Last year I was a mother too </div> <div> only my losses were not counted you see.</div> <bR> <div> Today is my special day</div> <div> to celebrate my being a mother</div> <div> As the pain still is very near</div> <div> Did you know I have more babies in heaven</div> <div> Than this baby I hold right here.</div> <bR> <div> Today is my special day</div> <div> Although I try to show my joy</div> <div> Be patient and understanding today</div> <div> It's all still so very new to me </div> <div> Next year will be easier I hope and pray.</div> <bR> <div> Today is my special day</div> <div> I day to celebrate my being a mother</div> <div> I pray for all my childless friends' dream to come true</div> <div> Who have dealt with loss or still desire a child</div> <div> That they may someday celebrate with me too.</div> <bR> <div> Happy Mother's Day to those who are normally forgotten.</div> <bR> <bR> <div> *****************</div> <div> (by Jody Seilhiemer.) found online -see bottom for author's note.</div> <div> Used with permission from author.</div> <bR> <div> Dear Mr. Hallmark,</div> <div> I am writing to you from heaven, and though it must appear </div> <div> A rather strange idea, I see everything from here. </div> <div> I just popped in to visit, your stores to find a card </div> <div> A card of love for my mother, as this day for her is hard.</div> <div> There must be some mistake I thought, every card you could imagine </div> <div> Except I could not find a card, from a child who lives in heaven. </div> <div> She is still a mother too, no matter where I reside </div> <div> I had to leave, she understands, but oh the tears she's cried.</div> <div> I thought that if I wrote you, that you would come to know </div> <div> That though I live in heaven now, I still love my mother so. </div> <div> She talks with me, and dreams with me; we still share laughter too, </div> <div> Memories our way of speaking now, would you see what you could do?</div> <div> My mother carries me in her heart, her tears she hides from sight. </div> <div> She writes poems to honor me, sometimes far into the night </div> <div> She plants flowers in my garden, there my living memory dwells </div> <div> She writes to other grieving parents, trying to ease their pain as well.</div> <div> So you see Mr. Hallmark, though I no longer live on earth </div> <div> I must find a way, to remind her of her wondrous worth </div> <div> She needs to be honored, and remembered too </div> <div> Just as the children of earth will do.</div> <div> Thank you Mr. Hallmark, I know you'll do your best </div> <div> I have done all I can do; to you I'll leave the rest. </div> <div> Find a way to tell her, how much she means to me </div> <div> Until I can do it for myself, when she joins me in eternity.</div> <bR> <div> Note from the Author:<FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#000099" FACE="Arial" > </FONT></div> <div> My name is Jody Seilhiemer, and I lost my only child three years ago in a car accident. I wrote this poem as I faced my first year as a childless mother. </div> <div> <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#000099" FACE="Tahoma" >If you wish to view any more of my poetry you are welcome to visit my website </FONT><A HREF="http://www.angelfire.com/il3/heartfeltwords/index.html " TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://www.angelfire.com/il3/heartfeltwo"><U>http://</U></A><A HREF="http://www.angelfire.com/il3/heartfeltwords/index.html " TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://www.angelfire.com/il3/heartfeltwo"><U>www.angelfire.com/il3/heartfeltwords/index.html </U></A></div> <div> email the author: <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Tahoma" ><A HREF="mailto:jws@sannauk.com" TARGET="_top" TITLE="mailto:jws@sannauk.com"><U>jws@sannauk.com</U></A></FONT></div> <bR> <div> More help can be found at this link:  <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Arial" ><A HREF="http://www.hannah.org/resources/holiday.htm#ParentDays" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://www.hannah.org/resources/holiday."><U>http://www.hannah.org/resources/holiday.htm#ParentDays</U></A></FONT></div> </td> </tr></table></body>